Resources


On My Bookshelf

5 Loves Languages Military Edition – Marriage is hard enough for the everyday civilian. But imagine marriage when you’re separated by thousands of miles . . . when one of you daily faces the dangers of combat . . . while the other shoulders all the burden of homefront duties. Add to that unpredictable schedules, frequent moves, and the challenge of reintegration, and it’s no wonder military marriages are under stress. Husbands and wives in all five branches of the military need a special resource to help them navigate marriage in the midst of it all. These men and women who are giving so much for so many need a way to love one another – a way that powerfully communicates to the heart.

5 love Languages – Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

 

The Sex Starved Marriage – Do you? If you want to stop fighting about sex and revitalize your intimate connection with your spouse, then you need this book. But “The Sex-Starved Marriage” is not just another book explaining the reasons you or your spouse might not be in the mood for sex. Bestselling author Michele Weiner Davis will help you understand why being complacent or bitter about ho-hum sex might cost you your marriage, and with her acclaimed psychobabble-free, straight-shooting advice, she’ll show you how to bring the spark back into your bedroom and into your relationship.

 

The DNA of Relationships – “Life is relationships; the rest is just details.” We are designed for relationships, yet they often bring us pain. In this paradigm-shifting book, Dr. Gary Smalley unravels the DNA of relationships: We are made for three great relationships—with God, others, and ourselves—and all relationships involve choice. Gary exposes a destructive relationship dance that characterizes nearly every relationship conflict, and he offers five new dance steps that will revolutionize relationships. The DNA of Relationships, the cornerstone book in Gary Smalley’s relationship campaign, will help you learn to take personal responsibility, create a safe environment, keep their battery charged, listen with the heart, and adopt a no-losers policy. It will revolutionize your marriage, family, friendships, and work relationships!

 

 

  The Sex Starved Wife – The Sex-Starved Wife gives you the tools you need to present the information in the book so that your husband will not become defensive. You’ll even learn methods for overcoming sexual dysfunctions such as performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and effective ways for dealing with pornography or infidelity. If you and your spouse need additional support, Weiner Davis offers concrete advice on how to get your man to visit his doctor or seek other professional help.

His Needs, Her Needs – Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.

 

Lo que el necesita, Lo que ella necesita – ¿Qué hace falta para lograr que su matrimonio tenga “chispa”? Una y otra vez, Lo que él necesita, lo que ella necesita ha alcanzado los primeros puestos en la lista de los mejores libros sobre el matrimonio. Más que cualquier otro, este libro ayuda a los esposos y esposas a darse mutuamente lo que más necesitan en su matrimonio.

 

Love Busters – Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love, including selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve common marital conflicts such as career choices and financial planning.

 

How can I forgive You -This book teaches you to let go of past hurts.

 

After the Affair – This  book offers proven and effective strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship after an affair.

Boundaries – Learn the principles of boundaries.

 

Boundaries in Marriage – Only when a husband and wife know and respect each other’s needs, choices, and freedom can they give themselves freely and lovingly to one another.

 

Covenant Marriage – Learn skills to truly live a marriage that pleases God.

 

  Things I wish I Knew Before We Got Married – It is never to late to take marriage from ordinary to awesome. Gary Chapman delivers skills to revitalize your marriage.

 

Gary Chapman teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it’s not just a matter of will–it’s a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships.

Sacred Marriage – Learn the purpose of marriage and how your attitudes and actions and your marriage can lead your to a life of holiness.

 

If Only He Knew – Practical steps husbands can take to be irresistible.

 

  Love & Respect –  A wife has one driving need—to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need—to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy.

 

Love Dare –  40 Days Challenge for husband and wives to understand and practice unconditional love.

 

Making Love Last Forever – Learn to stay in love through all the stages of life. From first attraction to lifelong commitment.

 

How to Win Friends and Influence People – A  calling  to build lasting friendship. This book will refresh your marriage.

 

Financial Peace – A practical plan to get out of debt and change your family tree from financial slavery to financial peace. This book will teach you and your spouse to set a budget.

 

Total Money Makeover – Practical tips and a plan to get out of debt. Get a money makeover that will save your marriage.

 

 

You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse.