Jun 18

Pay The Price

Three married couples we know decided to end their marriages. As a married couple that shared our lives with them, we were heartbroken. Our hearts ached not just because we were friends, but because we realized how much pain they inflicted on each other because they decided to no longer pay the price. When I really think of these marriages, I realize my husband and I must continually pay the price if we want a healthy marriage.

To say marriage has a price might cause some uncomfortable feelings for many individuals. After all, we are taught that we will find our prince charming or our beautiful princess and we will live happily ever after.

Marriage is not a fairy tale. There is a high cost associated with every healthy and happy marriage. The more time a couple spend in paying the price for their marriage the closer they get to create their own happy real life story. Not  a fairytale.



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Many couples want better communicate but they don’t even invest time talking to each other. It is like turning on a gas stove expecting heat without putting any fuel in. As a husband, you want to be treated as a king, but you have neglected your queen and your castle. As a wife you demand to be treated as a queen, but yet your anger stripped your husband of his confidence.

If you want a healthy and happy marriage, you have to pay the price. The more you pay toward your marriage, the more priceless your marriage will become.

Pay the price by going on dates to refresh each other

Pay the price by treating your spouse as the queen/king that he or she is.

Pay the price by making it a lifetime goal to study your spouse.

Pay the price by learning what build and motivate your spouse.

Seeing my friends tearing each other apart through divorce after they had professed undying love taught me a powerful lesson – Pay the price and do not take my husband and marriage for granted.  Start paying the price to build a healthy and happy marriage.


Question:  Henry David Thoreau once said, “The true price of anything you do is the amount of time you exchange for it.”

What is one thing you can do this week to start paying the price for your marriage?


Thank you for reading

  • http://PurposefulPathway.com/ Caroline Gavin

    Powerful post, Marie, and my heart goes out to your friends — as well as to you! I agree wholeheartedly: we must pay the price for anything valuable! May we embrace paying the price for our precious marriages and relationships. I appreciate you and your mission!

  • http://portofpeacecounseling.com/ Marie Mertilus

    Thank you so much Caroline.You sum it pretty well – we must pay the price for anything valuable.I truly see marriages as investments and the more we pay in, the more we get out.

  • http://www.threedimensionalvitality.com/ Ann Musico

    Wonderful post Marie. Today marriage seems to be a disposable relationship – if it isn’t perfect people just leave that spouse and look for another. It is not how God intended and you hit it on the head – there is a price to pay for anything that is valuable to us and people put too much emphasis on the wedding and not enough on the marriage. Well done!

  • http://PurposefulPathway.com/ Caroline Gavin

    Thank you so much, Marie! Your posts are enriching and encouraging. I agree completely: we reap what we sow! God bless you and your ministry!

  • http://portofpeacecounseling.com/ Marie Mertilus

    Thank you so much Ann. The average wedding is just a little bit over $20,000.00. You right many couples focus on the wedding and neglect to see that the wedding day is the beginning of the actual marriage. Consequently, when they are tested, they run their separate ways. Many divorced couples would have achieved so much more together if they had worked on the marriage and pay the price.God never intended for marriage to be a quick fix, but a continual journey of love.