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Chapter 6 – Self-Care Keep Your Battery Charged
Are You Running on Empty?
Face it. Relationships require us to be at our best. When we do not make time to practice adequate self-care, out love ones are the first to be impacted. However, self-care is one of the most neglected parts of relationship. In marriages, couples will see a counselor in a heartbeat to address communication, infidelity, conflict resolution, but those are the same spouses that neglect self-care. Whether in marriage, friendship, parenting relationships, we cannot receive the full value and give out our best if we don’t work to be at our best.
I have worked many spouses who do not eat well; they are emotional shout, spiritually starving and intellectually feeble, but then they wonder why the marriages are not working? In order for couples to really give 100% and beyond, self-care is essential. ‘
Self-care at the spiritual and physical, emotional, and intellectual level is not selfishness it is selflessness. Here are some questions in the four areas of self-care that will help you start determining how to establish a good ground for self-care.
Spiritual self-care – Are you satisfy or famish? Are you reading the Bible and /or spiritual book? Are you meditating to recharge yourself? Are you praying to connect with God? Are you spiritually connected with others?
Physical self-care – Are you getting enough rest? Are you eating balance meals? Are you getting enough exercise? How are you managing stress?
Intellectually self-care – Are you feeding your mind healthy food? Are you learning new things? Are you allowing your mind to explore new boundaries? Do you challenge your mind intellectually?
Emotional self-care – When was the last time you really listen to your emotions? Do you know how to identify your emotions? How are you using the information provided by your emotions to attend to yourself? Do you know how to evaluate the truth of your emotions?
When your self-care cup is filled you bless others because your cup overflows. Self-care does not only bless your marriage, it is also a blessing to God. God not only made you for relationships. He wants you to be your best. He wants to live as the valuable human being that He created for you to be. As His temple, you cannot neglect your self-care and be the best spouse you can be.
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In order to do good self-care in the areas mentioned above, you must be willing to receive from others and God. There are many individuals who refuse to receive love compassion, empathy or any help from others. Receiving is part of self-care. When your cup is empty, you must get it filled so it can overflow. Another part of self-care is attending to your needs. Knowing when to say yes or no; to others, knowing when to get rest, etc. The last part of getting adequate self-care is giving. Giving is such a beautiful demonstration of self-care because it is when you put self-care in action in relationships. You give and you interact and you grow. Self-care cannot happen at the spiritual, physical, intellectual and emotional level unless you receive, attend or give.
Sure life can get overwhelming. Yes, others’ expectations and on our own expectations can get in the way of getting adequate self-care, but you and I were made for relationships. And, if we are going to be our best at relationships we will need to take our stress as lessons and opportunity to grow, put our stress aside and do the self-care to really get the relationship we want.
Challenge of the Week – Charge Yourself To Be The Best Spouse You Can Be
When was the last time you took care of your self emotionally, spiritually physically and intellectually.
Self-care is usually not associated with marriage health. However, a great marriage and self-care go hand in hand.
This week, take action. Evaluate your self-care in the 4 areas mentioned above and choose to implement receiving, attending or giving.
The more healthy you are the greater impact you will create in your marriage.
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