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Chapter 13 – Loyalty – She Needs to Know that You’re Committed
Chapter 14 – Esteem – She Wants You to Honor and Cherish Her
Can She Trust You?
A marriage that is built on trust will flourish even when there is hardship. Trust is valued in most marriages. The ability to know that your spouse respects the marriage and respect and your love you enough to stay faithful is priceless. However, in many marriages there is a compromise on trust. Husbands who understand that a wife‘s heart needs full trust won’t compromise the trust. Trust has a loyalty factor. Trust and loyalty go hand in hand. Can your wife trust that she is the only one in your heart and mind? There are many husbands that are not having a physical affair relationship but they have broken the marital trust by exposing the marriage to some of the dangers listed below.
Exposing the marriage to pornography
Exposing the marriage to other emotional relationship
Exposing the marriage to lustful thoughts
Exposing the marriage to secrecy
In trust terms, to have and to hold mean that your wife is the only woman you will look at and think of with sexual longing. We are bombarded daily with negative sexual messages that can chip away at the marriage loyalty. In order to stay loyal, you need to be intentional about:
Reassuring your wife of your love
Directing all your sexual longing toward your wife physically and emotionally
Wearing your ring as a symbol of your closeness to your wife
Be completely open about your plans
Don’t criticize her in front of others
Reassuring your wife of your commitment
Reassuring your wife of your emotional, physical and mental loyalty
Don’t compare her to others
When trust is broken, it takes time to heal. Healing only comes with time and dedication. If trust has been broken in your marriage, be patient. It will take time and effort to show loyalty.
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Do You Cherish Her? Do You Esteem Her? Do You Really Love Her?
To cherish is to value. To cherish is to treasure. If you treasure your wife, you will esteem her. Not only by words but by countless actions. You cannot be loyal to your wife in mind, heart and spirit, if you don’t esteem her. Many husbands especially Christian husbands fall short when it comes to cherishing their wives. As “the leaders” of the household, these men devalue their wives’ opinions. In some cases, many husbands treat their wives as second class citizens. Consequently, these marriages suffer. These husbands fall short because to love is to esteem by not showing esteem they are not loving. If you do not esteem your wife, she does not feel love. Be a leader in a house and be the leader of her heart by honoring her and cherishing her. Honor your wife by doing the following.
Show that you value her opinions
Put her first after God even before the children
Show her unconditional respect
Value her efforts
Value her commitments
Let her know that you are proud of her
Rejoice in the woman that she is
If you esteem your wife, you will trigger her to show you the respect that you desperately need without asking for it.
Challenge of the Week – Loyalty and esteem go hand and hand. You cannot be loyal in spirit, mind and heart to your spouse if you don’t esteem her for she does and cherish her for who she is.
Loyalty – This week evaluate your heart and thoughts. Are you loyal to your wife? Are your thoughts and actions communicating trust? Can she trust your intentions?
Esteem – Do you treasure your wife? Do you honor her for who she is? Do you praise her for what she does? This week show her you esteem and cherish her with words and actions.
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