Marriage lessons can come from the most unlikely places. Inspired by my husband, I embarked on a journey to complete the Insanity. Honestly, this was the first time I approached the Insanity as a personal challenge. I have completed the Insanity. However, this is the first time I was not being pushed and pulled by my husband to complete the program.
I faced two main obstacles
Fear –When I started the exercise program, I kept questioning my ability to actually complete the program. The more I questioned my ability the more doubts I had.
Time management – With a toddle running around and working with couples, I really did not know how I would find the time to exercise six days a week. Some of the Insanity workouts are over thirty minutes long. If I wanted to succeed, I would have to make the time for the exercise program.
I decided to face all my fears and jumped with both feet in. Two months later, I completed the insanity on 4-7-14. Here are 10 marriage lessons I learned from completing the Insanity.
1. Planning and action lead to success – Life is busy. It is easy to watch life just passing by. The Insanity was my mountain. I climbed to the top because I had a target date. I woke up six out of seven days and I worked out. If you want success in your marriage, you will have to plan it and act on it
2. I am responsible for me – My husband was the inspiration for this journey, but I had to take ownership of my journey. At the end of the day, the ball was in my court. It is crucial to take ownership of your marriage.
3. Unconditional support – Marriage is truly the relationship where one can foster unconditional support. My husband was not instructive, but throughout the program he walks by my side. Asking me about my progress, giving me tips to address soreness. If your spouse takes on a challenge, give your unconditional support.
4. Repetition is a great asset – In the second month, the intensity of the exercises increased. Honestly, there were days, I truly did not want to work out. I just kept telling myself you have to wake up and work out. I can tell you physical, mental and verbal repletion became my greatest asset. If you are doing something new in your marriage and it is difficult, just keep at it. It will get better.
5. Pain is temporary – I don’t know if I forgot how painful sore muscles can be, but by the first week of the program, I was quickly reminded of that fact. By the third week of the program, all the soreness was gone. Pain is temporary.
6. I am guided by my mind – Thinking positive was a huge factor in my success. In the beginning, I questioned my ability. I had to reshape my thinking by saying I can do this. I am a positive person, but exercise was uncharted territory for me. I had to really focus on the positive. If you are having difficulty in your marriage, start by looking at your thoughts.
7. Health matters in marriage – I knew recreational intimacy is important in marriage, but I was not intentional about it. My husband would schedule a physical activity and I would participate. Being inspired to do the Insanity has impacted my views on health and marriage. A healthy spouse is a happier spouse. I have more energy to give to my husband and my son because I taking care of my health. If I don’t take care of my health, I am deliberately putting my health at risk at the expense of my husband. It is both spouses responsibility to create an atmosphere of recreational intimacy. Start creating the atmosphere you want.
8. A Sense of accomplishment – For a West Indian who cannot swim or ride, this experience has really put a spark on my heart. I feel so proud of myself. I feel proud of the influence that my husband have on me. I feel proud of the new exercise goals I have set. When you are willing to listen to your spouse, you will go places.
9. Exercise is a lifestyle – I can say that I enjoyed the process of completing the Insanity. I enjoyed the marital and personal benefits that I have gained from the program. However, one of the most important benefits I gained is making exercise a lifestyle. Before the insanity I was not really exercising on a regular basis, I eat healthy. Eating healthy is not enough. I really want to be alive and well to enjoy my marriage, my child, grandchildren and even great grandchildren. Lasting change requires a lifestyle change.
10. This is just the beginning – I truly feel I have tapped into strengths that I did not know existed. This experience really opens my views on recreational companionship and health as lifestyle. There are things as an individual I will experience solely because of the influence of my husband. I truly urge huge not to miss out on the experiences your spouse will create for you.
I was able to face my obstacles and complete the Insanity. The benefits listed above go beyond my marriage. I know I will revisit them again and again.
Questions: This was a fun and amazing journey for me. I never thought an exercise program can do so much. Have you ever had an unlikely experience that helped your marriage? How have your recreational intimacy or exercise plans affected your marriage and your life?
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