Oct 01

Is Your Marriage a Safe Place?

Have you created a safe place in your marriage? When I ask this question to couples, I get mix answers. The answers usually range from the deer in the headlight look, the accusatory look to the please save me look. You might not consider that your marriage to be a place of hostility. You might even think that you have created a safe place. After all, there is no emotional, physical or verbal abuse taking place. 


Many couples view marriage safety as the absence or presence of abuse. Abuse might not be even be close to enter your marriage, but your marriage can still be unsafe. 


Safety in marriage goes beyond abuse. It is revealed in the daily conversations your have with your spouse. The way you speak in public about your spouse. Your tone during arguments and after arguments determined how safe of a space you are creating in your marriage. One wife mentioned to me that she knew for a fact that her husband loves her, but each time she talked about spending time she knew he would get his emotional weapons ready.

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You might not even say a word, but does the way you look at your spouse encourage or discourage a conversation? Safety in marriage is crucial for intimacy. Your spouse can open her heart and talk about her deepest fears if she knows that she will not face repercussions. Your husband can be the man who leads his house with servant leadership if he knows that you are not keeping score and that he will be punished tonight.   

There are no quick fixes and shortcuts to build intimacy, but one thing that can really ignite all level of intimacies in your marriage is creating a safe place for you and your spouse to be open and honest, baring all and letting all the barriers fall down. Search your heart and see if you have created a safe place in your marriage.

Question: How can you increase safety in your marriage?

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Sep 29

Lessons from The DNA of Relationships


Read to Feed Your Marriage allows you to read a great marriage book by a world renowned marriage expert and you get a licensed counselor to give you weekly tips and challenges to transform your marriage from average to amazing. Join us from September 29th to December 1st as we read the DNA of Relationships by Dr. Gary Smalley



Chapter 1 – A Relationship Revolution


Yes, You Can Revolutionize Your Relationship & Create Healthy Patterns 

Negative patterns usually lurked in the background of many marriages. Many couples are not even aware of these negatives patterns until it is too late. You know the husband who walks away each time an argument occurred or the wife who uses sex as a weapon when she feels hurt. These couples keep wounding each other day after day and wonder why the marriage is not working. Painful words echo in their hearts and minds years after years. With each unresolved arguments negative patterns become more cemented. When conflicts emerge, each spouse play their unhealthy patterns without missing a beat.

Do you know the unhealthy patterns you are playing in your relationship?

Negative patterns are sometimes masked as wrong reading of messages, caustic and sarcastic comments, avoidance, etc. You don’t have to accept every invitation to arguments. Arguments can be opportunities to resolve your conflicts and build healthy patterns. But most couples find themselves play the same role over and over again. The wife says we need to talk and the husband put the same defensive barrier patterns that he always put up. Some spouses have become robots. Instead of identifying the patterns and build new healthy patterns they accuse each other. Consequently, the marriage keep suffering.


If you want to reprogram your marriage with healthy patterns you have to really decode your relationship. Listed below are 5 healthy patterns that make a healthy DNA for a relationship:   

Learn the power of being one

Take care of yourself to prevent burnout

Deepen your emotional connection

Learn how to create a safe place to build intimacy

Be a team 

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Don’t fall in the same trap over and over again. The most important thing you can do is to decode your relationship today and work to instill new healthy patterns. If you want to revolutionize your relationship, you have to let go of the old patterns. Stop participating in the bad scripts.

I encourage you to dig deep and decode your relationship. Learn practical and successful tip that will lkead you to have a satisfying relationship.

Challenge of the WeekAre you ready for a revolution?

Life is relationships and the rest is just details. There are times that you got to dig deep and ensure that the details are not being shadowed by negative patterns, bad scripts that you have willingly and voluntarily play years after years?

This week dig deep and write down what negative patterns do you want to take out of your marriage.

Write new healthy patterns you want to instill in your marriage?



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Sep 26

The ONE Conversation Every Couple Should Have

One of the first questions I ask to couples who engage in counseling for financial unity is “Did you discuss finances prior to marriage?” Surprisingly, many married couples never had an in-depth discussion about their finances prior to marriage. In many marriages, a conversation about finances never enters the equation until there is financial problem. In some marriages, the couples avoid the “scary” financial discussion until they are back on the honeymoon. Consequently, many marriages start with financial pitfalls lurking in the background.

In order for a couple to avoid these pitfalls, the best thing to do is to have money conversation before walking down the aisle. Now, if you reading this blog post and you are married. You can still have this conversation. It is never too late.

A financial discussion can be the beginning of a great financial legacy. However, many couples avoid it due to constant arguments, anxiety, floods with overwhelming emotions, feeling stuck. Quite frankly, I encounter many couples who just don’t even know where or how to start a financial conversation with attacking each other.


Since the money conversation is vital in marriage, here are 6 tips that you can use to have a successful money conversation with your spouse.

Make it about us, not you – I have heard this spill many times – this is my money and this is your money. The classic couples, who have separate accounts, spend their money separately; make financial decision without consulting or even considering each other. I challenge you to really take to heart that it is no longer just about you, IT IS ABOUT US. When you were single, you made financial decisions that benefited just you. Once you said I do, you accept another person in your life. Financial decisions are about us and benefit us. Consequently, merging your finances make the transition from two to becoming one. You create a financial bond. The best way to do create that bond is to think of us. Talk about how we will spend our money? What type of house we want to buy with our money? Start your money conversation about your dreams as couple. Talk about the dream for us.   

Let go of the secrets – Separate financial life usually leads to secrets. And when a marriage has secrets especially financial secrets, it is just as bad as sexual infidelity. You might think the previous statement was took it too far. But, if you have credit cards your spouse do not know about, you have hide purchases from your spouse, you have manipulated your spouse to buy what you want with guilt or the “I work hard excuse” or you make financial decision in secrets. This is infidelity. In order to experience financial unity, you need to let go of the secrets. Yes, your spouse might be angry at first. But letting go of your financial secrets, give you freedom. And you can start fresh to build financial unity and eliminate any trust issues.   

Know your financial styles as a couple – In marriage there is a spender and there a saver. During your money talk, really discuss your financial style. Are you spender or a saver? By talking it out to your spouse you can keep each other balance. Be each support system. When you are anxious about finances, your spouse can help you to relax. If you are the spender, you spouse can help you to slow down and see a different perspective. Talk to blend your financial style as one.  

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Know your financial goals as a couple – To know where you are going and how you and your spouse going to get financial freedom is not in freeing, it is reassuring. You cannot succeed financial if you don’t have financial goals. Do you want to invest in stock? Do you want to make enough money to leave a great financial legacy? Talking about your financial goals help you to put actual plans to your dreams. After all, if you don’t talk about your financial goals, how can you help each other to realize your goals? It is no longer a one man or one woman show. Talk about your financial goals.  

Worries do not increase your bank account – Living your life as a pauper or worrying about the bills over and over will not get you to financial unity. When you are talking to your spouse, express your worries in order for your spouse to know the reason behind your actions. Then, release the worries. Get support from each other. Talk about your financial dreams and how you plan to implement them. 

Build a plan together – Having the financial conversation about your financial life together is just one step. If you don’t create a plan to address your financial life, you will continue to have financial discord. Consequently, it is crucial that both of you create a budget and agree on how each dollar will be spend. Budgeting is one of the steps that will stop you from spending more than you make.  

If you are thinking about engagement, you are engaged or you have walked down the aisle, having the money talk is crucial for the life of your marriage. Don’t live separately financial life, because if you do, you will wonder where your money has gone. Don’t make the same mistake many couples make, they leave their finances up to chance and keep fighting about money issues. Take action by having a money talk with your spouse


Questions:  What are your financial goals? Are you and your spouse in the same page concerning these goals?

Take Action  – Sadly, money issues is the # 1 cause of marital discord in America. You don’t have to be a statistic. Schedule a time this coming week to have the money conversation with your spouse. Pick one of the 6 tips and just start.


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Sep 24

10 Ways You can increase Trust in Your Marriage

Trust is vital in any relationship especially in marriage. I have worked with many couples that have lost trust in their spouse and even in marriage. In marriage, trust requires a sense of vulnerability that exists in no other relationship. There are many couples that expect trust to just grow organically. However, to instill trust in the marital union, a couple has to work.

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Here are 10 Ways You can increase Trust in Your Marriage:

Share Your Past – Sharing your past with your spouse is one of the ways to give your spouse a view of your life. Your spouse does not only get to know details about your life, but that level of honesty allow your spouse to know how your experiences shape you into who you are today.

Participate in a New Activity Together – This is one of my favorite exercises for couples that are learning to trust each other. Many couples in my counseling program have reported that by doing a new activity together, they bonded and they experienced a reliance on each other that never existed before. One of my clients reported that he felt that he was taken an adventure with his wife. And that is so powerful for a marriage. 

Share Your Thoughts – I can personally vouch of the benefits that sharing my thoughts with spouse have in my marriage. It was so impactful that I actually assigned to several couples to share thoughts daily with each other. Sometime our thoughts wandered in our minds like lost ships without any destination, let your spouse be the safe arbor for your thoughts. Share what you are thinking but you are not saying. By having several couples to tract their thoughts, some spouses realize that their thoughts were not helping their marriage. This exercise does not only empower the marriage but it empowers individual spouse to know who they are.

Seek for Your Spouse Advice –Seeking advice from your spouse does not only build trust but it also deepens intimacy. Your spouse will feel that what they have to say does matter. Your spouse will know his opinions counts. Most importantly this is a trust exercise that creates unity in marriage. 

Share Your Feelings – Instead of bottling your feelings or go on a rage, build trust with your spouse by sharing your feelings. Share positive and negative feelings. 

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Admit When You are Wrong – When disagreements occur, instead of avoiding or pointing the finger, admit that you are wrong. One wife reported in a counseling session that by hearing her husband admitting that he was wrong for the first time in a decade she knew for sure that he was working on himself and building trust in the marriage. Admitting you are wrong is not even about shame, because you don’t have to tell your spouse that he or she was right. It is about taking personal responsibility for your actions and being vulnerable to say I was wrong and I’m sorry. The whole focus is on you initiating trust when it has been broken.  

Share Your Dreams – There is nothing more beautiful and powerful in marriage when you have two spouses working together to be one. Yes, you have individual goals and dreams. However, sharing your dreams and working together will lead you to achievements sooner. Imagine the support you can get if your spouse knows your goals and dreams. The results of sharing your dreams with your spouse lead to dreaming together and dreaming for one another.  

Share Your Struggles – This is another one of my favorite exercises for couples. By sharing your struggles you get an accountability partner in your spouse, and your spouse knows that you are being vulnerable. The more you open up about your struggles the more opportunity you are creating for trust to grow. If your spouse was reluctant to share their own struggles you have now given permission to your spouse to share their struggles. 

Share Your Fears – Does your spouse know your deepest fears? If the answer is no. I encourage you to start sharing your fears with your spouse. This is one exercise that allows couples to not only deepen their trust but many couples in my counseling program have learn to face their fears together. You might be afraid to start your business like one of my counseling clients had reported, but until you open up to your spouse this fear might control you. Get the support you need from your spouse.

Share Your Daily Schedule – If you want to foster trust and avoid communication issues, share your daily schedule. I lost count on how many times couples tell me they are not communicating. Half of the communication issues would be eliminated if they actually shared their lives with each other. With work, children school, extracurricular activities more of today couples are passing each other by like two ships sailing ion different directions. A healthy couple that value trust will be open about daily schedule. This activity take shred of doubts and create an atmosphere of honesty. 

Trusting your spouse and having your spouse trust you completely create a confidence in your marriage that no conflicts can shake. The above tips allow your spouse to know you intimately. I have worked with several clients where trust was broken due to addiction, and infidelities, but these couples were able to regain trust and are maintaining lasting trust in their marriage due to letting go of their guard and being vulnerable. The ball is in your court; start working on increasing trust in your marriage today.


Question: How trust has affected your marriage? 

Take Action – Pick one of the above ways to build trust in your marriage today.


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Sep 22

Lessons from the DNA of Relationships


Read to Feed Your Marriage allows you to read a great marriage book by a world renowned marriage expert and you get a licensed counselor to give you weekly tips and challenges to transform your marriage from average to amazing. Join us from September 29th to December 1st as we read the DNA of Relationships by Dr. Gary Smalley





Are You Ready to Decode the DNA of Your Relationship? 

The first time I read Dr. Gary Smalley’s DNA of Relationships I knew I had a true gem in my hands. My first plan to unpack a great resource on emotional abuse, but the more feedback I receive from you the more I was convinced that DNA of Relationships was the right choice.

What is in the DNA of a healthy relationship? Better yet, what is the genetic makeup of your relationship DNA? 

I know it is more than love. It is commitment. It is forgiveness. It is selflessness. It is the courage to be vulnerable when you want to protect yourself. It is teamwork. Discovering the DNA of your relationship goes beyond infatuation. It requires a willingness to trust your spouse. It is about meeting each other’s emotional needs. Dr. Gary Smalley’s DNA of Relationships is one of the most detailed marriage tools that really allow couples to dig deep and decode their relationship.

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If you are looking to revitalize your marriage, and ready to learn practical tools, join us every Monday from September 29 – December 1 to start decoding your relationship.

Schedule for DNA of Relationships


September 29 – Chapter 1
October 6 –  Chapter 2
October 13 – Chapter 3
October 20 –  Chapter 4
October 27 – Chapter 5
November 3 –  Chapter 6
November 10 –  Chapter 7
November 17 –  Chapter 8
November 24 –  Chapter 9
December 1 –  Chapter 10


I encourage to dig deep and decode your relationship. Learn practical and successful tip that will lkead you to have a satisfying relationship.

Challenge of the Week Are you willing to decode your relationship?

What do you hope to learn to have a satisfying relationship.

This week list down 3 things you want to learn to have a satisfying relationships.


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Sep 17

5 Questions That Will Help You Embrace Your Role As a Spouse

Do you really understand your role as a wife? Do you really grasp your functions as a husband? I met with a female client who engaged in the individual counseling process just to understand a wife’s role in marriage. The client explained that she fell in love and stumbled quickly into marriage. Six years later, she was divorced. A broken heart, hurt feelings and deep healing scars are the reminders that pushed her to really dig in her role as a wife. I can already tell this a woman who will succeed in marriage when love knocks at her door. This client really wants to dig deep, so she does not repeat the same divorce story again.

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What does it means to be a wife? A husband?    

This is a topic that can be quite controversial. There are many married couples that did not have good role models for husband and wife. Yet, they have successful marriage. The decision to understand and embrace your role as a spouse lies solely in your hands.

Here are 5 questions that will help you to start embracing your role as a spouse


1. What is your mission as a wife or husband?

2. Does your mission match your role?

3. How do you translate your role into actions

4. Does your role as a spouse meet your spouse needs?

5. Do you feel fulfillment in your role as a wife/as a husband?

Without discussing your role with your spouse there is a world of unknown your marriage. You cannot meet your spouse’s needs if you don’t know what is required of you. You cannot give 100% of yourself in your marriage if you are not confident in your role as a spouse. Does your spouse needs you as a supporter? A raving fan? A calm place in the middle of the storm? You will never know until you start discussing your role as a spouse and embrace it fulfill. 


Question: How do you define your role as a wife or a husband?

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Sep 15

Do You Want To Avoid the Assumption Trap in Your Marriage? Try These 4 Tips

Have you ever expected your spouse to complete a task and it wasn’t completed. Well, that happened to me this week. I realized my mistake was making assumptions without discussing any expectations with my husband. This is a common mistake in marriage. Assumptions left unchecked lead to barriers in communication and eventually a deterioration in the marriage. I was able to catch myself before I communicated my assumptions with my husband. However, for many couples this is not the case; false assumptions about motives, house chores, finances, roles eventually lead to resentment.


Over the years, I have trained myself to really catch my false assumptions. Sometime I do succeed and sometime I just have to ask for forgiveness and keep working to have a great marriage. Here are 4 tips that have helped me in catching myself making those unhealthy assumptions:

Discussing expectations – Your spouse cannot read your mind. Having a conversation about an issue can really save you from having unnecessary conflicts. Discussing expectations allows you and your spouse to come up with a workable plan. Whether it is budgeting, completing house chores, knowing your expected role in the marriage, addressing emotions, discussing expectations will lead to marriage success. Discussing my expectations with my spouse helped to clarify plans and have even helped us established routines that have simplified our lives.

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Are your assumptions realistic and true? The false assumption road is really one road I advise every couple I counsel to avoid. Making false assumptions about your spouse is creating a recipe for failure. It has a snowball effect. If not careful, a couple can really get in a vicious conflict cycle. You make a false and unrealistic assumption, your spouse gets upset, and communication gets blocked. You see where this going. Before you even address your spouse, ask yourself if your assumptions are true and realistic. Each time I question myself about the validity of my assumption, it leads me to create a conversation that was much needed.

Don’t assume – Usually when I assume, I am judging my spouse. Your spouse is not on trial. Take the gavel away from your mind. Assumptions you make in your head are just as detrimental as the false assumptions you communicate to your spouse. Unspoken assumptions lead to anger. Eventually you are sitting and boiling and one little disagreement could lead to a big blow out. The best way to prevent those big blowouts is to stop entertaining those false assumptions that are brewing in your head.

If you must assume, assume and expect the best – The vicious conflict cycle that can from making assumptions can really lead to an unhealthy image of your spouse. If you are thinking the worse of your spouse, you really have stopped being one with your spouse. You will be on the defensive and eventually will retaliate out of anger or by shutting down. Start expecting the best. If you must assume, assume your spouse had the best in mind.

Questions: What are your expectations for your spouse? Do you expect the best?

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Sep 12

Who Will Make The First Move?

A few years back, I was working with a couple that faced a crossroad in their marriage. Both wife and husband saw a need for change, but both spouses made conditional requests before they were willing to give the marriage a chance. Trust in a marriage grows with action and time. Love and respect on the other hand require immediate delivery.

Is it fair for your spouse to ask you to earn love or respect?

Why then are your actions saying to your spouse

Earn my Love?

Earn my Respect?

When a husband asks his wife to earn his love instead of just give love, he thwarts any chance of breaking the crazy cycle. Think about it. A wife who is trying to earn her husband love is on a slippery slope. If she succeeds, she feels that she has to be on her tipsy toe not to rock the boat. At any chance, she might lose his love.

When a wife asks her husband to earn his love instead of just giving it freely, she destroys any chance of building her man. This husband will always wonder – “Am I doing enough for me to be worthy in her eyes? No matter what he does, there will be a speck of doubt lurking in his mind, if I slip up will I lose her respect?

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Both of the above scenarios take place daily in marriages. Spouses waiting on the side line and asking - Who Will Make the Fist Move? If you are reading this post, it is your turn to make the move. Don’t require your wife to earn your love. Don’t require your husband to earn your respect. A wife’s desire to be love and cherished come with the role. You give her  love because she is your wife. A husband’s desire to be respected comes with the role. You give respect because he is your husband.

Learning to stop the crazy cycle requires giving love and respect to your spouse because he or she is your spouse.

Demanding your spouse to earn your love or your respect, only lead to resentment, a broken spirit and eventually a failed marriage, this week ask yourself

Question:  How do you deliver unconditional love or respect to your spouse?

Take Action : List 3 things you can do that will lead you to give unconditional love or unconditional respect to your spouse.

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Sep 10

Are You Letting The Power of Forgiveness to Heal Your Marriage?

Seating here writing this blog post, I can almost go back to the session. I was sitting with a couple struggling to trust each other again. In my eyes, it was not about who is right and who is wrong. However, the hurt feelings had run so deep that the husband could not bear to hear himself say “I’m sorry, please forgive me”. The wife was not ready to really trust him again. My goal as a marriage counselor at that moment was not to force the husband to apologize nor to force the wife to say I forgive you.

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At that moment, the focus was on healing the marriage and both spouses. Healing for both spouses and the marriage only came when they allowed forgiveness to serve its purpose

Are you letting the power of forgiveness to heal your marriage? Really, let this question sink in your heart. You can hold to bitterness and resentment to protect your heart or you can hold to your pride by not asking for forgiveness. You can’t move forward without being vulnerable. 


Forgiveness requires vulnerability from both spouses. It requires for the spouse who is seeking forgiveness to really open and see how his or her actions has affected the marriage. The spouse who is accepting the forgiveness has to let down their guard and trust again. When these two actions do not take place, you are really sabotaging your marriage.  

Don’t sacrifice your marriage at the cost of your pride or your resentment. Refusing to admit you are wrong will keep you enslaved because in the back of your mind you might fear that your apology will not be accepted and your attempt to reconcile with your spouse will fall flat. Holding a grudge will keep you enslaved because you are carrying a load that keeps your marriage form growing. Perhaps, you are facing both sides of forgiveness. Let it go. Allow the power of forgiveness to heal your marriage.

Questions: Do you find it difficult to say “I’m sorry, will you please forgive me”? Do you find it difficult to accept your spouse’s apology? How would forgiveness transform your marriage?


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Sep 08

Lessons from Love & Respect


Read to Feed Your Marriage allows you to read a great marriage book by a world renowned marriage expert and you get a licensed counselor to give you weekly tips and challenges to transform your marriage from average to amazing.Join us from June 2nd to September 8th as we read Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.


Chapter 24 – The Truth Can Make You Free, Indeed

What Is Your Ultimate Goal?

Marriage requires a sacrifice that is deeper than any other relationships. Children are blessings that come and overflow our lives with joy, but they are destined to leave the nest. The marital relationship challenges us to live like Christ. Love unconditionally. Lay down our lives. Marriage can be a joyful relationship, but it really requires for spouses to look beyond hurts feelings.It requires endurance.


Are you really keeping your eyes on the ultimate goal? Fighting to give your wife love when you don’t feel like it. Saying no to the countless invitation  to get on the crazy cycle with your husband. Giving love and respect unconditionally goes beyond your spouse – it is a command to obey, honor and please God. A client once told me that he knew that he was not loving his wife unconditionally because he wanted his wife to reciprocate his actions before he gave himself fully. I validated his feelings, but at the end of the day his decision to love his wife is his responsibility. I challenged him to take responsibility for his own actions toward his wife. The fact that he chose to not love his wife unconditionally he was not at all in. Your choice to love or to respect your spouse unconditionally is  your responsibility. It is a hard concept to swallow but it is true. You can choose to retaliate by not giving love or respect. You can choose to focus on your spouse’s role and play the blame game. Those games only lead you to act as a victim or a child. In fact when you play those destructive games, your actions are saying to your spouse, I will be a wife or a husband if you choose to be a wife or a husband to me. When you depend on your spouse’s actions to love the way you are called to love or respect by Christ, you become a victim hopeless and helpless. However, if you choose to love and respect unconditionally, you are free. You are not move up and down like a yo-yo, Your actions are yours and only yours.


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How do you give unconditional love and respect when you are not receiving it? You endure through prayers. You get marital  professional help if needed. You don’t allow your spouse to drag you in the crazy cycle. You  don’t take the blame or accept the rage that he tries to put on you. You focus your eyes on the ultimate goal. You are called to love and respect unconditionally, make that your focus. Your only goal. Consequently, the time when you feel that your spouse is being so unloving toward you and you want to scream. You will have to make the decision to walk away and pray. You don’t have to stay in a room and be berated by an unloving husband and then respond disrespectfully. You can choose to leave and speak only when you can respond with respect. Leave the room to guard freedom. Don’t get on the crazy cycle. You are free to love and respect. You are free to not be moved like a yo-yo. You were called to love and respect not for your spouse’s sake, but for your own salvation.

What is your ultimate goal?

What do you intend to do about it?


Challenge of the WeekBuild a marriage that lasts. You have been doing the love or respect stuff, but you are not seeing any progress. Part of you just want to give up.

I want you to know I am fighting for for you too. You are in my prayers. Don’t give up. What is your ultimate goal. No one said this unconditional love or respect thing was going to be easy. If you want a marriage that pleases the Lord and that bring you joy, it is your time to fight for it.

Last week you dream big for your marriage, this week I invite you to look at your thoughts and your actions to see if you are fighting for the ultimate goal. Deep down in your core, are you fighting for your marriage?

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